10yo thinks our "hobby" is talking about 17yo! Yes, we do seem to obsess about her when things get crazy like they did this past weekend. I know it's not right to spend all our time together focusing on her. It's his vacation, after all! And we HAVE other children. But it's hard when you don't know where any one of them are!
This has been a common occurance to us. And even if it's not something you can take very lightly, I must admit it has gotten a little easier to get on with our day while we're stressing. But we still talk about it a lot.
I haven't seen her since Monday. I don't know any parent who wouldn't be feeling at least a little bit of angst if it were their daughter. Not to mention all the other emotions. But our emoting doesn't solve anything. And it doesn't make us very good company for a sweet little daughter who just wants her parents to be 'present'.
So...we did a little work outside today. I pulled weeds, my husband hauled junk, and 10yo jumped on our new trampoline (one of the 'toy buying spree' items). It was a pleasant day...with stretches of time where we didn't think about our daughter who wasn't there. And while we weren't thinking about her...she called.
She said she was in a safe place, being taken care of, and that she loves us. The caller ID said 'Name withheld'. Guess she doesn't want us to come and get her. I'm so glad she called!
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I am glad she called as well. At least it releived you of worrying about her. Just pray for her. when ever you feel anxious about her pray. pray for yourself in the matter as well and for you all actually. She is at an age where you aren't really going to do to much with her. All you can do is give her the assurance you will be there for her as long as you can breathe.
Because I went thro simular stuff with a kid, actually 2kids I know how hard it is to play cool. I can also promise that she is going to need you more in two years than what she needs you now.
Things will all work out well in the end
I am glad you had a good day. That is a true gift when things are hectic and insecure.
Sandi
Thanks for the encouraging words Sandi! I'm glad you mentioned that there isn't much I can do with her at this age. I'm sure some people don't understand that. Some have the attitude that you can 'control' your children. I've learned that you can't. They either control themselves, or they don't. Like you, I had 2 that don't. I really do feel that we did everything we knew to do...and so did the teachers and counselors who were also involved. Improvement doesn't come until they want it bad enough. Meanwhile...there is a lot of life that you risk missing out on. I feel like it's time to reclaim mine! It sounds like you are reclaiming yours...are you?
Glad she called. See she does think about you too.
Yes...I knew she did. I just thought she might still be too mad at me. It's good she can get over it. I take that as a sign that I can be optimistic!