17yo is coming home today to pick up some stuff. I found her ID cards while I was cleaning her room, so she doesn't have to get a new one. I'm going to keep one of them in case she loses the other one. "Other Mother" has her social security card, which she needs to have if she wants to get a job...which she does!
She said there has been a little bit of drama where she is living, but not too bad. Other than that, she seems pretty content. She says she really needs to get completely away from the drugs and people in this town. I think she is right. Even though there are drugs everywhere, you can still start over as a non-user if people don't know you.
When my son was trying to clean up, drug people were calling him regularly, coming to our door, ready and waiting for him to fall back into it! He didn't have enough of anything else going on in his life to be able to stay away from it then. I think he's doing well now, but it took a move to a different environment. He's now talking about moving to a different city. I think it would be good for him too.
Meanwhile, my neighbor has decided to move for the same reasons. She has seen her children go 'down hill' fast. She purchased the house they live in on owner terms, and was talking about just walking away from the contract! She just bought a place with 20 acres in another area. She can't afford to pay for both, and the mortgage is more than she could get in rent. I'm thinking about taking over the contract...largely so that I will be able to control who my neighbors are. We'll see.
Well...I've got work to do today. Gonna tackle that junk room! It's a sunny day, so I can drag things outside to sort, and haul things away. My other neighbor needs some stuff hauled too. He has emphazema, so he can't do it himself. I'm sure he'll let me use his truck to haul my stuff if I take his stuff too. Better get going though!
Have a great day!
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While not having your daughter in your life is painful, knowing that this is probably what's best for her hopefully eases some of that pain.
Happy cleaning!
Yes, knowing that my daughter really needs this separation from the life she's been creating makes it a lot easier for me to accept this. And BTY...it was a great cleaning day!
It is true. If your daughter does want to clean up her life she is best to go where people don't know her or her background. After that it is all ;up to her...
I would take over the contract. A new environment may prove to benefit you as well. Maybe your daughter would be able to start over there or at least stay clean once she is.
Actually, the house is right next door to us. That fact is the only thing that makes us hesitate. While we might be able to control who lives in the house, we don't get to change it's location, so we might have trouble finding good renters. I really don't know if I want to own two houses in this neighborhood. But it's a no money down, take over the contract deal, and those don't fall into your lap every day. Well, at least they didn't used to.