17yo called and said she was in town today so she could be here tomorrow for her brother's birthday, and could we pick her up. Of course! She came home and told us she had two jobs. We were very happy for her! Then the 'drama' started. It didn't take more than 10 minutes for her to tell us to f-off and storm out the door!
It's sure hard to miss her when our only interaction with her in two weeks is THIS! I'd sure like to believe her when she tells me she is getting her life in order. I want that more than anything! But to come home saying "yeah, I'm doing great!...Now give me my money!" like we're maliciously keeping it from her...well, it doesn't sit well with us. We kept telling her that the money is for the window she broke...and until we know it's fixed, she doesn't get her money.
She doesn't want us involved in the whole window thing. Truthfully, we don't want to BE involved either! But legally, we are...or could be. So we are just making sure the money goes where it's suposed to. She wants us to trust that she'll take care of it, but that she needs the money for something else right now. I haven't seen much lately that inspires trust...nor have I ever known her to use money responsibly. And the way she acted today didn't inspire us to believe that she had 'evolved' much in the last two weeks!
So...she's gone again...hating us again. Too bad. I really hoped we could have a good time together...and that the good news she shared with us would change things for the better. Oh well. No yet. At least things are calm when she's gone...and the longer she stays away, the less we want to return to the old life.
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Hopefully time will change things, I really feel your hurt, believe me, I would rather break a bone than to feel inside my heart what our children do or say...I will pray for you this morning at church and she will hopefully come around eventually. Responsibility is one thing that they take thier time getting
I guess you are right. Rome wasn't built in a day. I just feel that she is just running away all the time, and I wonder if that's every going to stop.
She's still just seventeen....but I think you were wise not to give the money to her. Maybe time will solve some of her immaturity problems. So sorry, Maggie.
Yeah...I'm seeing a bit more maturity here and there. I guess it doesn't come in all at once. She did come back yesterday, and we talked more about it. We're probably going to fix the window today. I sure hope to put all this behind us.
It hurts, no matter the age, when your children think they hate you. All I can say, is keep doing what you know is right, and one day she'll come around.
You are right...and she already has come back with a better attitude. I have a sister who warned me about this. She was a single mother of five sons who are now grown. She said that every single one of them told her to "go **** herself". IT DOES HURT! But in my sister's case, they all turned out to be really good men. There is hope!